Verbal Self-Defense

The Gentle Art of Verbal Self‑Defense by Suzette Haden Elgin
A cornerstone text for recognizing and defusing verbal attacks, based on presuppositions, tone, and respectful boundary-setting (Verbal Self Defense (wikipedia.org), Psychology Today, HowStuffWorks, The role of Verbal Self-Defense: How to prevent Physical assault with words,
The Complete Idiot's Guide to Verbal Self‑Defense
Breaks down verbal self‑defense into practical “four steps to verbal black belt.” A structured, relatable approach for teens (Teenage Self Defense – Ages 12 to 15 , The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense, Verbal Self-Defense: How to Protect Yourself with Words Before a Fight Starts).

“Verbal Self‑Defense: How to Protect Yourself Before a Fight Starts”
Walks through techniques like assertive communication, setting verbal boundaries, distraction, and de‑escalation—most relevant for teens prepping for risky social situations tbotech.com.
“The Role of Verbal Self‑Defense: How to Prevent Physical Assault with Words” (NRA Women, Feb 2025)
Offers real-world tips: calm tone, boundary statements (“Step back right now”), broken‑record technique, questions to disrupt aggression, and silence as a tool.

Kidpower Teenpower Fullpower International
Nonprofit offering interactive programs on boundary-setting and de‑escalation—developed specifically for teens and young adults.
Local teen self-defense events (e.g., Stillwater Public Library program)
These teach both verbal assertiveness (“If you keep following me, back off”) and respectful physical self-defense skills (Why Every Kids’ Self Defense Program Should Teach Public Speaking, How to stay safe with some of the best self-defense tools on the market,

Using Your Voice – Strategic Living
Covers how a firm “NO!”, eye contact, tone, and posture can deter an assailant—good for teens who might face harassment or unwanted attention

A Simple Plan for Teens to Learn Verbal Self‑Defense

1. Read & Reflect - Start with Elgin’s Gentle Art or the Complete Idiot's Guide.

2. Watch & Practice - View videos like Strategic Living’s “Using Your Voice”. Role-play phrases (“STOP!”, “Leave me alone.”) with a friend or adult.

3. Learn Techniques - Practice: broken-record method, boundary-setting, asking redirecting questions.

4. Join a Program - Find a local Kidpower course or teen self-defense workshop.

5. Apply Daily - Encourage teens to speak up: verbally assert themselves in day-to-day conflicts—conversations, bullying, even peer pressure.